Friday, July 31, 2009


Today I unfortunately had to ruin my morning of sleeping in with Chancho because I forgot to put away a few things around the house and I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the morning knowing that. Starting the day off on a sour note only made the day get better and it did. I was able to focus my attention on my family tree. Recently I have been really interested in my family history and who everyone is and so forth. What got me started was a conversation with my father two days ago when he informed me that I have cousins who live a few towns away that I have never heard of until that moment. So from there I went about searching for luck in that area.

I did however, get a nice long history about my paternal grandmother's side of the family. I was able to find about 5 more people and add them to the tree. With the help of my mother, I was able to add about 3 more people. It is slowly but surely becoming larger and larger with every person I speak to. I even found out some interesting facts about the family along the way. Some family members are adopted, but don't know it. My father's middle name is not a family name, in fact it's the result of a failed marriage. And lastly I was supposed to have twin great aunts or uncles, but they were a miscarriage. I was able to extend my research with the help of Ellis Island. Found some actual records of my maternal great grandmother and grandfather. I am keeping my family tree orgainized through the handy-dandy site I'd recommend it for anyone who wants to start keeping a record.

I've always been interested in where I came from and it's nice to actually see it all laid out in front of me and it will be easier for when I have children and they begin to ask questions. I am very excited to start my own family and to watch it grow. But that can come with time, no rush.

Chancho update: He did a training today with paintballs. If only my job entailed playing with paintballs. We also get to spend an entire day together on Sunday! No paid detail! :) And not only is it an entire day, but we'll be at the beach the entire time!!

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Never Enough Time

There is always that feeling of there never being enough time in the day. We had a wonderful time yesterday. Some good and some not so good. The good involved drinking, partying and spending the night together. All of which is not something that happens very often.

I'll start with that Chancho got out at 3pm instead of 7pm. Either of which I would have been thrilled about because with his usual shift he gets home by 1am. We were able to have lunch and dinner together like a normal couple. We stopped off at the liquor store and because it was a Wed. there was a law enforcement discount....a lousy $2 and change. It didn't even cover tax. Why even bother saying there is a discount?? Senior citizens got a bigger discount! Doesn't that seem strange? I'm not going to go and continue to complain, because we all know that police officers get discounts when there shouldn't be any discounts to begin with so I guess it all works out in some way.

In the course of the night I once again had a hard knock of reality. Chancho informed me while we were discussing going out to clubs that he was not allowed to go to a few places under the orders of his superiors. Which, in all honesty, is not a huge deal, but it does make me realize that even though I'd like to think that he can do whatever he wants, he can't. It all comes down to those few officers that cannot keep their guns away and can't control themselves while they are out that it ruins it for others. It had me thinking about how if the group of my friends wanted to go to the places that he can't go to, that would be added to the list of "do it alone". I'm trying my best not to struggle with that concept. I never was one to need someone to do things with me, but growing up in a household where I constantly saw my mother going to things without her husband and dragging me along instead, I never wanted that for me. One of the things that keeps me from running in the other direction is that I know his shift won't always be crappy hours and the higher up he gets in the force the better chances he has in recieving the days that he wants off. He also isn't my dad who constantly shields himself from the public. It's not anything that I can't learn to live with and I'm already learning.

We are both countingdown the days until our vacation. We are in desperate need of alone time and a breather from him worrying about work. Due to the both of us struggling financially b/c of student loans and the high insurance bills we don't get to have the leisure lifestyle that we'd like. So this vacation will be very nice, even if it does put us down in our savings. I say it will be worth it. He has been working overtime shifts and doing paid details on his days off. Which only means less time for us. A 2 day gettaway in Rhode Island by the beach in a bed and breakfast is something to keep us going. 2 weeks away now! :) Then after we get back from that. We go camping. A double date camping trip if you will. It will be the first time Chancho will be camping. I'm pretty excited to show him how fun it can be. The campground is near the beach as well so that will keep him occupied if nothing else does.

Now only for these 2 weeks to hurry up so I can truly relax!

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

A New Beginning

As a first, I would like to begin with a preview of what I hope to accomplish in creating this blog. This is a 2nd blog for me, but the 1st in which I hope to actually continue. I want to write about things, that the people in my life do not usually understand, as they are not in a similar situation as me. As well as sharing some pictures here and there when I see fit.
I date a cop. One who has fulfilled my every hopes and dreams of someone whom I'd want to be with. However, the catch to the great find, is that he is a cop. Not to knock down the great job that he does, because he is an excellent officer, yet it does add a new dimension to a relationship that I'm not sure everyone understands. So I intend to take those frustrations out here in hopes that someone will be able to try and clarify or at least relate to what I am going through. If anything this will help me when I feel like a friend can't help. I am new to the police life, (only a year in) learning day by day what comes with this lifestyle and I find that it helps to have a criminal justice degree. It definitely gives me some background and some familiar ground to go off of when he speaks in "cop lingo".
I feel as though I have tons to write about in this first post, but I will end it here in that in a rare occurrence Chancho (as I'll refer to the cop I date) is home during daylight hours and I must take advantage of this!